Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Paranoia?

I'm a bit of a germaphobic, though nothing Monk-like. I wash my hands often, I don't touch bathroom door handles. If it's one of those public bathrooms with an air dryer and no towels and the door has a handle, I've been known to stand there until someone else comes in, just so I don't have to touch the door .Having a three-year old means I'm in a lot of public bathrooms. I'm always screeching "don't touch anything!"

I use anti-bacterial wipes or gel to wipe down the tabletops in front of my children if we're out to eat, knowing they're going to eat off the table. I wipe down the handles on the shopping carts because my son apparently thinks that those things are damn tasty and I can't stop him from licking it if I've forgotten my cart-seat cover thingie.

We wash our hands when we come home from the store, before we eat, after we've been outside. I wash my kids' hands A LOT.

Recently, everyone in the known universe is sick. Some with mild colds, bad colds and coughs (like my poor husband). Some people's children have one flu or the other, and without any vaccines available in our area, there's really nothing I can do.

Because of this, I think I've stepped my germ-a-phobia up a notch, and I'm not sure it's entire healthy or necessary. I used to take the kids to the gym with me in the mornings twice a week and while I'd take an aerobics class, they'd play in the large daycare and interact with other kids. But now, knowing how gross kids are and how everyone has been sick, I've stopped taking them there, wanting to limit their exposure as much as possible during this cold/flu season.

But if I keep them away for the entire season, it means months of me missing my gym classes and them missing out on an activity they enjoy. BUT if I do take them and they get sick, that's time off from work, poor sick babies, dayhome money wasted, holidays and parties missed out on.

Part of me thinks I'm being reasonable because no one wants their kids to be sick if it's avoidable and the other part thinks I'm being crazy, that I can't have my kids at home all the time for the next five months or not take them to places. I also know that some exposure is actually GOOD for their immune systems. And yet, I can't help but cringe at the thought of them putting a toy in their mouth that Sally Snotface just snotted on, ya know?

Today, we have a well visit at our pediatrician for Sawyer. I'm actually thinking of ways I can avoid him having to touch anything. Normally, since he's ambulatory, I just walk with him up to the office, but knowing the cesspool of the pediatrician's office this time of year, I plan on putting him in his stroller and only letting him out when it's time for him to be examined. And afterward, I plan on a Hazmat shower for both of us. See? I'm crazy. Right? Or am I?

It's not even the dreaded H1N1 or any illness in particular I'm afraid of. Sick kids just blow. We miss work. They feel like hell. Then, almost inevitable, one or both of the parents get sick and then it REALLY blows. It's no fun for anyone and I want to take every step imaginable to avoid it but part of me thinks I'm going too far and need to stop myself from letting paranoia take over before I become a full blown nutcase.

Are any of you as paranoid as me about their kids getting sick?

20 comments:

jonniker said...

I'm CRAZY PARANOID about my kid getting sick. I stay home with her, so it's not even the stress of missing work, it's that dude, work or no, being with a sick kid BLOWS. IT BLOWS. I don't care what your situation, it's AWFUL.

I'm going to the doctor today and I have to bring Sam with me. I am bring in my stupid Sani-Hands anti-bacterial crazy wipes and I'm wiping down EVERYTHING SHE TOUCHES. And then I'm wiping down her HANDS. (My doctor is adjacent to her pediatrician. Same office.)

So if you're nuts, I'm as nuts as you are, and am right there next to you.

Life As I Know It said...

I don't think you're crazy. Once these winter months hit, I dread taking them into the doctor's office, the grocery store and those indoor playground that are just big, glorified petri dishes.

Blech.

bessie.viola said...

I feel the crazy, I really do, but I try REALLY hard not to go there. My SIL has 4 kids, and she is TEH CRAZEE about germs. Seriously, each kid has sanitizer in their backpack and rules about when to use it. They ALL use it compulsively. 3 of her kids are boys, and even they don't like to be "dirty."

They are ALWAYS sick. ALWAYS.

So I've seen what overprotection CAN do first hand, and because of that I think I'm a little more prone to be lax. I cringe at the doctor's office, but I don't have a cart protector and Madeline has ABSOLUTELY licked the cart (not that I LET her, it's just happened). She's eaten dirt, and I've never used sanitizer on her (though I did require it for guests when she was newborn).

You're a good mom, that's why you're worried. But it's okay to be a little germy. I am of the full belief that it's actually better for them.

jonniker said...

Bessie Viola, I completely agree with you, under normal circumstances - my kid is building her little immune system! Colds are GOOD for her! But with the pig flu, I don't feel that way. I'll be a lot more lax again once she can get vaccinated -- both doses. (For me.)

Cookie said...

I'm fairly paranoid, which is why I'm obsessive about hand-washing and glad my children aren't in daycare, both for avoiding germs and because I don't have to take sick days if they're sick (my MIL watches them). I'm also glad that the gym class that Nick is in is the first of the day, so all the equipment is freshly cleaned. So I don't blame you for not wanting to take them to the gym. The last thing you want is your kid to come down with the flu.

Amanda said...

OMG YES!
no flu shots of any kind around here, and im 9 mo. pregnant! we are washing and sanitizing, and im the mom who feels the same about them needing the germs to stay more healthy than others...
Just.Not.This.Season.
too much riding on health and wellness right now.
there will be NO fast food 'play centers' and after playground equiptment, wash wash, and i wouldnt bring the kids to the gym. DONT EVEN get me started about the docs!! i felt like your blog today was me!

SciFi Dad said...

I'm not, but my wife is.

jenny said...

i'm a sanitizing queen these days!

i've never sanitized EVERYTHING in sight so much in my entire life. i work at a job where i deal with the public so i'm always sanitizing everything there. then i go home and sanitize, wash, and repeat! i'm getting a flu shot tonight and when the h1n1 is available in our area - i'm ON it. the little dude has a cold now (hoping that IS all he will get, knock on wood) but he'll be getting the flu shot too. oh, and the one day a week he goes to a daycare CENTER - everything gets washed after that day.

i feel a bit like a freak after writing all this out. LOL!

╰⊰⊹✿hUmMeLfIeD✿⊹⊱╮ said...

I do not have any children of my own, but I do co-own a daycare type business, so I understand your fears. Especially since the children we watch full time have parents that work in a doctor office, a school or are the school nurse!!! Talking about any and every germ! We might as well own stock in Clorox.

Germs suck. Cranky, sick children suck.

You know what I worry about the most though? My husband. When he's sick, the world as I know it ends. And THAT sucks. ;)

Anonymous said...

the more you sanitize the more you get everything. your inmunne system must work on something.
let the kids play with other kids!!

Kellie said...

I'm all for my kid being exposed to stuff to help build her immune system.

BUT....I'm a HUGE germophobe. I wipe down the carts, I use towels to open bathroom doors if I have to. I wash my hands so much, they literally crack and bleed (especially during the Winter!!).

I REFUSE to bring Morgan to the gym daycare. REFUSE! I've seen parents dropping clearly sick children (dark rimmed eyes, nasty cough, rivers of snot) off and scamper to Pilates.

Her preschool has a two hour break between the AM and PM classes. The teachers use that time to dump all the toys in tubs of water and Clorox, they wipe down the tables and chairs and other things that can't go in the tubs. They use "germ juice" with the kids and are real big on a) keeping your kid home if he or she is sick and b) teaching the kids to sneeze/cough in their sleeves.

I get what some say about not being a freak. And that's fine. For them. It's not fine for me. Anytime I get sick, it immediately turns into a sinus infection. Given my history with those, I want to avoid that at all costs. If my kid is sick, it's a sure bet *I* will get sick.

So yes....I am as paranoid as you about my kid getting sick. I actually refused to let my in-laws come see Morgan two weeks ago because my MIL was hideously sick and I wanted them nowhere near my home.

Rolling Off The Edge... Together said...

I guess now that Matthew in pre-k at a regular old public school there is not much we can do. We continue with the usual measures (wiping everything in public before and after, handwashing, etc etc etc) but it is out of my hands (haha) at this point when it comes to school.

I was paranoid but not anymore because we are all just getting through our first flu (and it was a bad one) of the season. This year I think I am mentally prepared with thinking we are going to get what is going around b/c of the school thing. Otherwise normally I would be an avoider.

About the gym, can you go in the evenings after the kiddies are in bed? That is when I go and it works. Of course I am a total night owl and I am not sure if you work at night so that may not be the thing for you. Just a thought!

Rolling Off The Edge... Together said...

PS" No vaccines (flu or H1N1) in our house this year I do not think. Still slightly on the fence about this but probably a big fat no from us when it is all said and done.

anne said...

Me me me!! Yup, I could have written this post. I've always sanitized the grocery carts, restaurant tables, etc., but this season I'm going a little extra crazy with sanitizing everything due to the flu outbreaks and the fact that I'm also pregnant. I'm not keeping us locked at home in a bubble (although sometimes I'd like to!) and no matter how much I/we sanitize, the kiddos are still going to get germs through the air, licking their fingers, sticking fingers up their noses, etc. I absolutely hate it when parents drag their kids along to public places when they're sick or send them to school sick. Get over what's convenient for you and think about your sick child and the rest of us!!
(Oh, and I had my son in for the flu shot a couple weeks ago and wanted him touching NOTHING in the MD's waiting room, so before we walked in I gave him a sucker and told him he had to sit on my lap the whole time to eat it, and it worked!)

Burgh Baby said...

Nope. Not paranoid (at least not any more so than I was pre-kid--you never could make me touch a bathroom door handle). And look! I'm the one at home hanging out with a sick kid!

Dammit.

Jana said...

The only thing I'll probably avoid doing is taking Ryan to the mall to the play area. I have never wiped anything. I'm with Kellie, I think germs are good for kids as long as they don't put their life in danger. But, that doesn't mean I don't have my irrational fears about other stuff...like someone crawling through the window to steal her or some other CRAZY thought. We're mommies. We're supposed to worry.

kate said...

I'm reasonably relaxed about it, in part because my daughter is in daycare, which is a disease factory, so there's only so much you can do. I feel like mostly it's good for her immunity. I've been known to yell "don't touch that!!!" when she reaches for some crap on the street or puts her mouth on something like a grocery store cart (or, once, the subway pole!) but I don't catch her every time. I am a strong believer in the flu vaccine, though, mostly because of daycare, and I just got her vaccinated for H1N1.

She's pretty robust though - a little over two and never had anything worse than a cold (which she has often), not even a fever. Knock on wood. I know it can't last.

CassJustCurious said...

All I can say is that sick kids suck and I'm fucking tired. Do whatever you can to avoid this. Who gives a shit about building immune systems. I'm so damn tired I'm cursing like a mother fing truck driver on a three day non-stop to California and I'm lost in fucking Utah.

STAY AWAY from the SICK.

Tavia said...

You are not paranoid!! It is real. I've been holed up in a sick house for a week with no end in sight. My kids are coughing, snotting, crying messes. It's bad out there right now. Just stay home and do some Gillian dvds. :)

That Nora Girl said...

I've been made fun of by my friends in the past for washing my hands before I eat. True story.

My family has given me a hard time about petting zoos and how I don't let Liam touch the animals. To me, they are looking zoos. Also true.

I've actually had conversations with people, convincing them that washing their hands after they go to the bathroom is necessary. True! Can you believe it??

There are other ways of picking up germs, to strengthen their immunity. That's what I say.