Comments on Diary of a Modern Matriarch: Bicker

Full on fighting (which is rare) is NOT done in fr...

2009-11-18T10:52:11.955-05:00

Full on fighting (which is rare) is NOT done in front of the kids. Bickering, absolutely. We tend to resolve quickly and do it respectfully. Wouldn't want Bear to think our marriage is perfect with NO disagreements -- we'd be setting him up for an impossible idea of what marriage is really like!

"juice-bag" is pretty much the funniest thing I've...

2009-11-16T21:32:13.826-05:00

"juice-bag" is pretty much the funniest thing I've heard today. And it's late...

Gosh I try not to go full on fighting. She hears ...

2009-11-16T20:20:27.528-05:00

Gosh I try not to go full on fighting. She hears some confrontations but nothing too heated. I try to end it with a gave of rocks paper scissor and a high five to the winner....so she can see a positive ending.

Your bickering sounds just like me and evan. We d...

2009-11-16T20:09:42.723-05:00

Your bickering sounds just like me and evan. We don't argue often and when we do it doesn't last long. He is hard to stay mad at. Jackass is my term of choice also but the kids never repeat it..thank goodness. Somehow though my soon to be 3 year old picked up the words "juice-bag"..and he didn't get it from me.

I never EVER say "fuck you, you fucking fucker" in...

2009-11-16T16:28:24.612-05:00

I never EVER say "fuck you, you fucking fucker" in front of the kids, because I just know they'd remember tell their teachers ALL about their independant learning.

That said, we do bicker and snipe. OK, I do. Once in a while, we'll get my middle daughter acting all peacemakery and shout "STOP FIGHTING!!" and we say, "we're not fighting, dad's just an asshole, and I had to remind him of that. Several times."

Like others, if it is an actual *issue*, it needs to be done more privately. Like "maybe if you'd vacuum, like EVER, I could be less of an 'asshole'"

We disagree in front of them, but if the emotional...

2009-11-16T13:21:29.033-05:00

We disagree in front of them, but if the emotional quotient dials up, we tend to cut it out until they are in bed.

If we didn't bicker in front of the kids we'd neve...

2009-11-16T12:32:30.610-05:00

If we didn't bicker in front of the kids we'd never have a chance to argue. Fighting, however, is different. Things that the kids shouldn't hear about are done in private, after they're in bed.

GREAT question. I am pretty firm about not fighti...

2009-11-16T11:53:40.357-05:00

GREAT question.

I am pretty firm about not fighting in front of the kids. I remember when I was four or five, I watched my aunt and my mom get into a fight and my aunt totally reared back and bitchslapped my mom.

(I'm older now. I don't remember if my mother deserved it.)

But it should've NEVER happened in front of me.

We'll "argue" in front of them, if it's over something stupid (what to eat, where to go, etc), but if it's a real issue? I will unwaiveringly stand with, "We'll talk about it later."

I don't know what kind of parent this makes me. Perhaps southern.

Yes, we let them see us fight. Sometimes we proba...

2009-11-16T11:48:37.740-05:00

Yes, we let them see us fight. Sometimes we probably shouldn't as evidenced by the fact that Bubba asked for prayers for us in Sunday school yesterday because "mommy and daddy fight a lot." Yeeeah. Good times.

I think it is important for kids to see some argum...

2009-11-16T09:49:28.608-05:00

I think it is important for kids to see some arguments as long as they also get to see the resolution.

I was a little bicker happy myself yesterday. My three year old told me to calm down and have some dip. :)